Help for women who love addicted men

I'd love to help you

I know this space well — not just as a coach, but from my own life. I’ve been the one standing beside, loving someone lost in addiction. That’s why this work is close to my heart.

If any of this speaks to you, I’d love to stay connected.

Come find me on Instagram: @helpilovehim — where I share real talk, support, and reminders that you’re not alone.
You’re also warmly welcome to explore my other site: Help I Love Him — created especially for women who love addicted men. Only if it resonates, of course.

When loved ones get help, it often increases the chances that the addict will too.
You matter. Your healing matters. And you can absolutely change this story — starting now.

You could also be a partner, child, friend, colleague, or manager of someone struggling with addiction?

You don’t have to carry it alone.
Even if you're not the one with the addiction, it’s affecting you too.

You might recognize this:

• You walk on eggshells around their moods

• You try to help — then feel guilty when it backfires

• You’re exhausted from worrying, fixing, hoping

• You hide what's really going on — even from yourself

• You feel responsible, but completely out of control

It could be “codependency” — and no, it’s not your fault

Addiction doesn’t just impact the person using. It affects everyone around them.
That’s why it’s sometimes called a “family disease.”

You may not be the one drinking, using, or escaping…
but you’re stuck too — in your own patterns of fear, rescuing, controlling, or silence.

And here’s the truth:
You can’t save someone else. But you can stop losing yourself in the process.

What we’ll work on together

• Setting boundaries that actually protect you

• Breaking the cycle of fixing, pleading, and over-functioning

• Understanding the difference between love and self-sacrifice

• Processing guilt, shame, and anger

• Finding your own voice again

• Choosing how you want to live — no matter what they do

📞 The first conversation is free

You don’t need a diagnosis or a label.
You don’t need permission from the addict.
You just need the courage to reach out — for you.